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ALCOHOLISM TREATMENT TECHNIQUES AND APPROACHES: CHILDREN IN THE ALCOHOLIC FAMILY

Wednesday, May 11th, 2011

A few words are in order on behalf of older children in an alcoholic family. In many cases, children’s problems are related to stress in the parents. Children may easily become weapons in parental battles. With alcoholism, children may think their behavior is the cause of the drinking. A child needs to be told that this is not the case. In instances where the counselor knows that physical or severe emotional abuse has occurred, child welfare authorities must be notified. In working with the family, additional parenting persons may be brought into the picture. Going to a nursery school or day-care center may help the child from a chaotic home.What cannot be emphasized too strongly is that children not be “forgotten” or left out of treatment. Sometimes parents consider a child too young to understand, or feel the children need to be “protected.” What this can easily lead to is the child’s feeling even more isolated, vulnerable, and frightened. Children in family sessions tend to define an appropriate level of participation for themselves. Sometimes the presence of children is problematic for adults not because they won’t understand, but because of their uncanny ability to see things exactly as they are: for example, without self-consciousness the child may say what the rest are only hinting at, or may ask the most provocative questions. Along the same line, while a parent is actively drinking, the inevitable concerns and questions of the child must be addressed. Children may not need all the details, but pretense by adults that everything is okay is destructive. When initially involving the family, consider the children’s needs in building a treatment plan. Many child welfare agencies or mental health centers conduct group sessions for children around issues of concern to children, such as a death in the family, divorce, or alcoholism. Usually these groups are set up for children of roughly the same age, and run for a set period, such as 6 weeks. The goal is to provide basic information, support, and the chance to express feelings the child is uncomfortable with or cannot bring up at home. The subliminal message of such groups is that the parents’ problems are not the child’s fault, and talking about it is okay. In family sessions you can make that message clear, too. You can provide time for the child to ask questions and also provide children with pamphlets that may be helpful for them.Occasionally a child may seem to be “doing well.” In fact, the child may reject efforts by others to be involved in alcohol discussions or treatment efforts. If the alcoholic parent is actively drinking, the resistance on the child’s part may be part of the child’s way of coping. Seeing you may be perceived by the child as taking sides; it may force the child to look at things he is trying to pretend are not there. (Resistance also may surface to joining the family treatment when the alcoholic has become sober, for many of the same reasons.) Listen to the child’s objections for clues to the child’s concerns. Feel free to seek advice from a child therapist if you feel you are in danger of getting in over your head. What is important here is not to let a child’s assertion that “everything is fine” pass without some question.*133\331\2*

AREN’T WE ALL CONCERNED WITH HOW WE LOOK? GETTING DOWN ON YOURSELF

Friday, December 17th, 2010
People with BDD tend to feel negatively about themselves as a person because of their appearance flaws. As item 3 on Table 11 shows, people with BDD report that the perceived appearance defect has a fairly big influence on how they judge themselves as a person in a nonphysical sense (for example, thinking that the appearance flaws make them uninteresting or undesirable). They also say that the appearance defect is important to how they judge themselves as a person in comparison to other personal characteristics such as their personality, intelligence, life values, and ability at work. However, people with BDD tend to believe that other people judge them only slightly negatively as a person because of their defect. So people with BDD seem to judge themselves more harshly and negatively as a person than they think other people do.
It’s interesting that while the perceived appearance defect has a fairly strong influence on how people with BDD evaluate themselves as a person, Dr. Veale found that most people with BDD judge other people on the basis of many factors, rather than appearance. In a similar vein, Dr. Wilhelm found that when rating the attractiveness of photos, including their own, people with BDD underestimated their own attractiveness and overestimated the attractiveness of beautiful faces. Taken together, these findings suggest that people with BDD are harder on themselves than they are on others. This might be expected to fuel anxiety, depression, shame, and low self-esteem, which in turn may further amplify negative evaluation of oneself and appearance preoccupations.
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AREN’T WE ALL CONCERNED WITH HOW WE LOOK? GETTING DOWN ON YOURSELF People with BDD tend to feel negatively about themselves as a person because of their appearance flaws. As item 3 on Table 11 shows, people with BDD report that the perceived appearance defect has a fairly big influence on how they judge themselves as a person in a nonphysical sense (for example, thinking that the appearance flaws make them uninteresting or undesirable). They also say that the appearance defect is important to how they judge themselves as a person in comparison to other personal characteristics such as their personality, intelligence, life values, and ability at work. However, people with BDD tend to believe that other people judge them only slightly negatively as a person because of their defect. So people with BDD seem to judge themselves more harshly and negatively as a person than they think other people do.It’s interesting that while the perceived appearance defect has a fairly strong influence on how people with BDD evaluate themselves as a person, Dr. Veale found that most people with BDD judge other people on the basis of many factors, rather than appearance. In a similar vein, Dr. Wilhelm found that when rating the attractiveness of photos, including their own, people with BDD underestimated their own attractiveness and overestimated the attractiveness of beautiful faces. Taken together, these findings suggest that people with BDD are harder on themselves than they are on others. This might be expected to fuel anxiety, depression, shame, and low self-esteem, which in turn may further amplify negative evaluation of oneself and appearance preoccupations.*218\204\8*

SLEEP HYGIENE: DRINKS

Friday, May 8th, 2009

According to The Oxford Dictionary, hygiene is the principles of maintaining health, such as by cleanliness. There is one part of hygiene which maintains good health at night and promotes sleep. This is ‘sleep hygiene’, and this has become standard terminology among sleep experts. There are five important items that are relevant to sleep hygiene and which are essential for the problem sleeper to consider: Drinks, Bedroom, Clocks, Biological clocks and Regular exercise.

Practising good sleep hygiene is an important alternative to taking sleeping pills.

Caffeine is the number one enemy for people who cannot sleep. This is present in coffee, tea, cola, cocoa, and chocolate. It is estimated that the average cup of coffee contains about 100 mg of caffeine, a normal serve of tea or cola contains about 50 mg, and a cup of hot chocolate about 10 mg. Caffeine is a strong stimulant. It has been demonstrated that three cups of coffee can totally cancel out the hypnotic effect of one sleeping pill. (250 mg of caffeine can reverse the effect of 100 mg of barbiturate.) Some people find that they cannot sleep at night because they have been drinking a few cups of cocoa or hot chocolate every night.

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RELIEF OF PARTICULAR SYMPTOMS FOR SELF-MANAGEMENT OF ANXIETY: FRIGIDITY

Wednesday, April 29th, 2009

Tension is the great enemy of free sexual response. Any woman who reduces her general level of anxiety finds that her sexual response is fuller, more spontaneous, and more satisfying. This is the experience of psychiatrists working with quite different methods of treatment. The relaxing exercises reduce anxiety, and will work to increase a natural response, both physical and emotional.

There are, however, some particular exercises which will help the frigid woman further. We have discussed the way in which muscles are brought to relax, and at the same time the relaxation is felt in the mind. Do the exercises lying on the floor, and feel the relaxation in your thighs. When your muscles are really relaxed your legs will roll outward from the weight of your feet. Now feel the relaxation in your mind.

Relaxed.

Legs rolled out.

Thighs relaxed.

Inside of them relaxed.

Feel it in my mind.

You can go further than this by learning to feel the relaxation of the parts concerned. Remember that this is something quite natural. There is no reason to feel in any way complicated about it. Most of us have been brought up, either directly or indirectly, to avoid sensations in these parts, to avoid feeling anything there at all. This of course is probably a factor in your present difficulty. There are two sets of muscles in which you can learn to experience the “letting go” feeling. There are the muscles around the opening of the vagina, and in the vagina itself. There are also deeper muscles which stretch across from the bones in these parts. Do not think that this is getting too complicated. Although you cannot see these muscles, you can quite easily learn to feel them relax. It is the experience of this feeling which helps you a great deal in the freedom of your response. Remember once again that this is a very natural way of gaining help. We have been indirectly taught to deny any feelings in this area. In a natural way we are just bringing our mind to relearn how to experience it.

It is easiest to feel the relaxation of these deeper muscles if you do the exercises in a sitting position. The reason for this is that the weight of the organs on the muscles pushes them down when they relax, and then the sensation of their contracting again is easily felt.

Do not think that I am involving you in something difficult. Actually it is remarkably simple. Just allow yourself a little time and practice, and you will find that you can relax and contract these muscles at will. At first the contraction will be easier to feel than the relaxation. Then when you have the relaxation, feel it in your mind. More than this, really experience it.

Relaxed.

Feel it there.

Free.

Free all through me.

It’s natural.

It’s good.

The freedom of the emotion follows the freedom of the muscles. It may take just a little time, but if you stick to it you will achieve the relaxation you want.

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